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Gary Smalley Personality

December 29, 2009 by · Comments Off on Gary Smalley Personality 

Gary Smalley Personality:The personality inventory you take is not like a test you fail or pass. It’s more like a fingerprint that shows your tendencies. Tendencies can change, unlike fingerprints. Discovering your personality tendencies in relationships helps to show where your strengths and weaknesses exist. Each of us has these personality strengths in combinations which are variable and adjustable. They need to be brought into balance. Therefore, the goal of this session is to help you understand where you are “out of balance” in terms of your personality. We’ve found that our greatest personal strengths—when pushed out of balance—become our greatest weakness. For instance, let’s say that your strength is that you have tremendous enthusiasm, this becomes a weakness as your enthusiasm turns into manipulation.

If a particular character trait of yours is too extreme, to the point that it irritates your mate or your children, you can decide to push that trait down and push other traits up. Let’s take a closer look at the four different personality types and see what happens when our strengths are pushed out of balance:

L is for Lion

Strengths Strengths Pushed Out of Balance
Problem solver Too busy
Bold, direct communication Insensitive
Decision maker Unthoughtful of others wishes
Strong Willed Stubborn
Independent, Self-reliant Avoids people and seeking help
Action oriented, persistent Inflexible, relentless, unyielding
Likes authority Too direct or demanding
Takes charge Pushy, impatient—do it now!
Confident Cocky, overlook feelings
Enterprising Big risks
Competitive Cold blooded

What does a balanced Lion look like? Since Lions are naturally hard on problems, their greatest relational need is to add softness to their natural style to keep from being too hard on people in the process. Also, lions may need to learn that meaningful communication takes time. They need to slow down and discuss decisions with others, not simply charge ahead on their own.

Gary Smalley Personality Test

December 25, 2009 by · Comments Off on Gary Smalley Personality Test 

Gary Smalley Personality Test:The personality inventory you take is not like a test you fail or pass. It’s more like a fingerprint that shows your tendencies. Tendencies can change, unlike fingerprints. Discovering your personality tendencies in relationships helps to show where your strengths and weaknesses exist. Each of us has these personality strengths in combinations which are variable and adjustable. They need to be brought into balance. Therefore, the goal of this session is to help you understand where you are “out of balance” in terms of your personality. We’ve found that our greatest personal strengths—when pushed out of balance—become our greatest weakness. For instance, let’s say that your strength is that you have tremendous enthusiasm, this becomes a weakness as your enthusiasm turns into manipulation.

If a particular character trait of yours is too extreme, to the point that it irritates your mate or your children, you can decide to push that trait down and push other traits up. Let’s take a closer look at the four different personality types and see what happens when our strengths are pushed out of balance:

L is for Lion

Strengths Strengths Pushed Out of Balance
Problem solver Too busy
Bold, direct communication Insensitive
Decision maker Unthoughtful of others wishes
Strong Willed Stubborn
Independent, Self-reliant Avoids people and seeking help
Action oriented, persistent Inflexible, relentless, unyielding
Likes authority Too direct or demanding
Takes charge Pushy, impatient—do it now!
Confident Cocky, overlook feelings
Enterprising Big risks
Competitive Cold blooded

What does a balanced Lion look like? Since Lions are naturally hard on problems, their greatest relational need is to add softness to their natural style to keep from being too hard on people in the process. Also, lions may need to learn that meaningful communication takes time. They need to slow down and discuss decisions with others, not simply charge ahead on their own.

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